(who will turn eight in a month) is having tremendous trouble in school. He is not necessarily an easy child, though he's incredibly intelligent. The school year started out badly, with his teacher calling me in for a conference before the first week was out.
doesn't suffer fools gladly. He's also a very structured child who doesn't like surprises or spontaneity, so when the teacher failed to follow her written schedule for the day, he called her an imbecile. (Yes, that was the word he used; his vocabulary is astounding.) In the next few weeks of school, he got into altercations with several other kids (some of whom were breaking rules, and he tried to call them on it). We've been working on teaching him to be more zen about things, but...
Anyway, so this morning I got a call from his teacher. She wanted to let me know that he'd been written up several times this week for poor behavior, including threatening the teacher's aide with a pencil (telling her he would kill her if she didn't leave him alone) and refusing to put on his seatbelt while in the school van on a field trip. ::sigh::
I talked with him, and he fully admits the anger and the threats, but firmly denies the seatbelt allegation. I tend to believe him, if only because he freaks out if I start to move the car before he's got his seatbelt on. He claims the belt was on and that he told the parent chaperone this, but they either didn't believe him or misunderstood him or something. So that I'm going to back him on when we go in for conferences on Tuesday.
As far as the rest... Well, we're going to continue to work on anger-management strategies and see what can be done to help him learn to deal with things in a productive manner. He spent about a half hour sobbing in my arms this morning, telling me how he just couldn't control it when he got angry and that it all seemed to just spill out. I'm trying to get him to recognize the build-up of anger before it gets to the point of explosion, so that he can calm himself down, but it's tough going. I'm thinking about trying to get him into meditation or yoga as a way of focusing himself; I don't know how successful that'll be, though, because I'm miserable at meditation myself.
I've also restricted him from television and video games for the rest of the school year--more as a preventative measure than as a punishment, because I'm still trying to figure out whether or not there's a correlation between his television viewing habits and his hostility level.
I wish kids came with an instruction manual. Or that they were all the same, so that once you've had one and learned all the tricks, you were set. ::sigh::